The Ex Factor. How do you deal with this?

your Husband sounds like a really amazing guy. I understand how you feel, but he let you read all the e-mails, and ims she sent to him that must say, he loves you allot, he could have kept all of that from you and see her on the side. I would not trust her, she dumped him, went with someone else had a crumpy Marriage, and now she wants him back, thats her problem, you said your husband told her many times that he loves you, so he is not hiding anything. I think you should just let your husband know how you feel, and that she is just trying to get him back because her marriage failed, she should respect the fact that he is married. look life is not perfect you know that, there will always be trials, and tribulations that we have to deal with, I think you marries a wonderful guy it's not his fault, she just thought of the one good guy from her past and now she wants him back, but he loves you. take care I hope it all works out.